Sometimes I feel weird writing a “positive Blog” because I don’t feel happy and positive all the time.
What do you do if you have a couple of bad days but want to continue writing about the good things in life? You could either leave off the writing for a few days or you could still try to focus on all the things you are grateful for.
The latest option might work in some occasions but other times it just won’t do it.
By writing in public we create a picture of our lives. Other people who read this make assumptions. About our lives; about their own lives in relation. I don’t want to paint a wrong picture. I wrote about this before because I think it’s so important.
I want you to know that we don’t spend all our days happily crafting, drawing and singing. I try to create happy days for us as much as possible but sometimes I just don’t have the energy and positivity to do it. And I know that this is human. Most parents probably face this situation more often than they want.
I used to beat myself up for having bad days which made me even feel worse.
I don’t want to do this any longer. Yes, it’s great if there are mothers and fathers out there who can give their children a good example of how to live with a positive attitude every day. I wish I could do the same.
But for now everything I am and everything I do is enough. Just right.
My children see me crying and be disappointed or angry or even desperate because of something.
All of this is part of life. Part of learning and growing up, no matter what age we are.
But my children also see me picking myself up again, being good to myself, starting anew with fresh energy.
I don’t want my children to learn how to fake a smile in every situation. I want them to learn how to nurture themselves, how to keep loving themselves especially when they are not feeling the best.
Especially when they can’t live up to their highest expectations.
And I want everyone who reads my blog to know that my life is far from perfect. Everyone of us is doing the best we can do every day. And it’s enough. We are enough.
There might be many things we want to improve and it’s good to have dreams and goals. But only as long as we are nice to ourselves.
Are you being nice to yourself these days?
So beautiful and so true, Halina. It takes courage to show followers we are human on the other side of our blogs. Much love.
Thank you Falan! I just know myself, how easily I assume that other people are always happy even if you only see a glimpse of their lives.
~ Love back to you, Falan!
So glad you wrote this!!! This is a struggle all of us face, how much to share? But my mantra lately is balance. Because that is reality. There are joys and sorrows in every single life. I always try to follow a serious post with a more light hearted one to reflect that reality. I think you are doing an excellent job of showing balance through your writing.
Thank you Emmie! I know it’s all about balance, isn’t it? xxx
Yes I am , Halina, or I am trying. It is challenging when you are also trying to be nice to the people you love and live with. Those two aspirations don’t always work together easily, or at first try.
I am glad to know that you are trying to be kind to yourself, and therefore, your family.
With love…
Thank you Lesley! It’s definitely challenging and I always have to remind myself again to be kind to myself, not beat myself up for being imperfect. I think we can get better at it if we keep practising.
I definitely needed this today! My kids are grown and I am constantly looking back on things I should have said or not said or reacted in different ways. I wished I knew the things I do now. I love this post because our days are not sunshine 24/7 and that is ok. More women need to realize its ok to be off-every once in a while.
Thanks Dianne! I’m sure you did the best you could at that time. And that’s perfect!
Much Love, Halina